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WHAT IS DISCIPLINE
Giving your child the tools to succeed in life.
Doing whatever you have to do to like living with your children
Discipline is based on building the right relationship with a child more
than using the right techniques.
Helping your child develop inner controls that last a lifetime.
One day I was watching a family in my waiting room. The child played happily
a few feet away from the mother, frequently returning to her lap for a brief
emotional refueling, then darting off again. As he ventured farther away, he
glanced back at her for approval. Her nod and smile said "It's okay," and he
confidently explored new toys. The few times the child started to be disruptive,
the mother connected eye-to-eye with him and the father physically redirected
him so that he received the clear message that a change in behavior was needed.
There was a peace about the child and a comfortable authority in the parents. It
was easy to see that they had a good relationship. I couldn't resist
complimenting them: "You are good disciplinarians." Surprised, the father
replied, "But we don't spank our child."
Our understanding of the word "discipline" was obviously different. Like many
other parents, they equated discipline with reacting to bad behavior. She didn't
realize that discipline is mostly what you do to encourage good behavior. It's
better to keep a child from falling down in the first place than to patch up
bumps and scrapes after he has taken the tumble.
Discipline is everything you put into children that influences how they turn
out. But how do you want your child to turn out? What will your child need from
you in order to become the person you want him or her to be? Whatever your
ultimate objectives, they must be rooted in helping your child develop inner
controls that last a lifetime. You want the guidance system that keeps the child
in check at age four to keep his behavior on track at age forty, and you want
this system to be integrated into the child's whole personality, a part of him
or her. If your child's life were on videotape and you could fast-forward a few
decades, what are the qualities you would like to see in the adult on the tape?
Here is our wish list for our children:
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