As Martha gave her final push and I eased the precious head out of the birth canal, out popped a pudgy little hand with a curved little finger. In a flash, I realized that we were parents of a baby with Down Syndrome. The baby we expected was not the baby we got.
As we parented Stephen, we realized that a child with special needs exacts from us a special kind of parenting. For special-needs children the principle of mutual giving really shines. As Stephen developed special skills, we developed special skills. He brought out the best in us.