The Challenge of Sleeping Peacefully while Pregnant
As your pregnancy progresses and your little passenger starts taking up a lot more room, sleeping peacefully while pregnant becomes more of a challenge. You get more tired and need more sleep, but the changes of pregnancy can keep this from happening. Here are some explanations as to why sleeping peacefully while pregnant can be a challenge:
Why you wake up so often
Pregnancy can take up a lot of your energy early on, so you have no choice but to sleep a lot. But as your pregnancy progresses, the very marvels that are taking place inside your body and in your growing baby conspire to keep you awake. This just goes with the territory. One way to cope is to understand this “territory.”
Your body is working day and night to grow a baby, and your hormones never rest, so it’s no wonder you have difficulty settling into a restful sleep. As your pregnancy progresses, your sleep patterns become similar to those of a newborn infant. The amount of deep (non-REM) sleep you get decreases, and REM sleep increases. REM stands for “repaid eye movement,” the state of sleep in which you are more aware of your environment and arouse from sleep more easily. Though it’s hard to imagine a physiological purpose for this change, it does prepare you for a realistic fact: motherhood is not a nine-to-five profession.
While sleep loss is one of the inevitable side effects of motherhood, night feedings and diaper changes have yet to begin. While you must accept the fact that a sleep-through-the-night pregnant woman is as rare as a sleep-through-the-night newborn, there are a few ways to help your mind and body enjoy a better night’s sleep.
The pressure from your growing baby pressing against your diaphragm can cause irritating stomach acids to be pushed up into your esophagus, causing gastroesophageal reflux. Sleeping on your left side in a semi-upright position helps gravity keep stomach acids down, whereas the horizontal position of sleep is a recipe for reflux.
Needing to urinate
Downward pressure on your bladder, requiring frequent urination, happens in the first trimester; before the uterus is large enough to move up out of the pelvic cavity into the abdominal cavity and away from your bladder. In the third trimester, your bladder will be squeezed for room again by your uterus, now full of a baby, amniotic fluid, and placenta. Another cause of frequent urination is the high level of progesterone necessary in pregnancy.
If frequent treks to the bathroom disrupt your sleep, avoid beverages containing caffeine (coffee, tea, cola) after 3:00 p.m. Also use the triple-voiding technique to empty your bladder just before retiring. (Grunt three times before you get off the toilet to be sure your bladder is empty. This is a good time to exercise your pelvic muscles too.) If you wake up in the middle of the night needing to urinate, just get up and go. The sooner you do it, the sooner you’ll get back to sleep.
Babies, whether born or unborn, often have their days and nights mixed up. If your enlarging uterus doesn’t wake you up, its occupant will. Whereas your daytime motion lulls the baby to sleep. When you rest, your baby awakens, stretches, and wakes you with all the wonderful movements their learning.
You’ve heard the phrase “sleep like a baby.” Well, that’s only partially true. While it’s nice to enjoy that deep, zoned-out sleep that babies periodically have, you may not realize that babies have longer periods of light (REM) sleep throughout the night. Pediatricians theorize that babies have more REM sleep, making them more easily aroused. This means they can wake up more readily to signal a nighttime need.
Body aches and pains effect sleeping peacefully while pregnant
Leg cramps, skin itching, and swelling breasts are nighttime nuisances that commonly keep pregnant mothers awake. Especially in the third trimester of pregnancy, leg cramps and “creepy, crawly” sensations in the legs can be particularly annoying. Flex your toes toward your head to ease a cramp – pointing your toes down usually aggravates cramps. Calcium and potassium deficiency can make cramps worse, so eat more fruits and vegetables and limit carbonated drinks, since the phosphoric acid can steal calcium.
Worry and stress
With all the changes going on inside your body and your home environment, it’s easy to carry on with daytime worries and the associated high level of stress hormones into your precious sleep time.
Pregnancy dreams tend to be more intense, vivid, disturbing, and bizarre than your non-pregnant dreams. Women we have interviewed report that pregnancy dreams seem more real than regular dreams and that the usual “life worries” themes seem more grossly exaggerated. Pregnancy dreams also occur more frequently than non-pregnancy dreams, and are recalled more easily because a pregnant woman wakes up so frequently, often during a dream, when it’s fresh in her mind:
I dream a lot anyway, but my pregnancy dreams were so realistic! I dreamed I told my husband he could date his ex-girlfriend, and the dream went downhill from there. I dreamed he took her out to dinner on my birthday and eventually ran off with her. I woke up drenched with sweat, shook my husband, and screamed, “How could you do that to me?”
You dream differently while pregnant because you sleep differently when you’re pregnant. As we’ve said, during pregnancy, especially during the last trimester, you spend a larger percentage of your nap and nighttime sleep in REM, the stage that encourages dreaming and easy awakening. However, pregnancy dreams cannot be blamed entirely on hormones, since many expectant fathers also report having more vivid, even scary, dreams. A baby on the way means big life changes for everyone in the household. Because of these changes, a pregnant woman’s mind is ready for thought and introspection day and night.
I dreamed we left our two-year-old with my parents and forgot to pick her up. I think this dream means I’m scared I will neglect our older child when the new baby comes.
Pregnancy dreams often reflect a woman’s pressing concerns, which change with the stages of pregnancy. Early in pregnancy, dreams seem to focus on fertility symbols: potted plants, fruit, seeds, water, ocean waves. Toward the middle of pregnancy, dream babies appear in your fantasies, and your dream life may be filled with images of your baby, babies in general, and even tiny animals, such as puppies or kittens. Some women dream that they aren’t pregnant at all and wake up confused and horrified. Many women find the “builder” theme repeated in their dreams, reflecting on the role of Baby Builder. Toward the end of pregnancy, the dreams may become nightmares: your baby is not healthy, you have a problem delivery, someone is stealing your baby. It’s also normal toward the end of pregnancy for dreams on others topics to become more anxious – you might dream about career upsets or problems with your spouse. Most women report that their fearful dreams are baby-related, such as having empty breasts when baby wants to nurse, or doing something terrible as a mother. Dreams of dropping the baby are common:
I kept dreaming about deformed babies. My therapist says this is a common dream for pregnant women and perhaps symbolic of the real threat the baby poses to an established lifestyle and body image.
It is best not to over-analyze your dreams and become anxious about their content. Sleep, especially pregnant sleep, distorts and exaggerates realities anyway. If you dream you deliver a deformed baby, it just means that you have the normal, healthy fears a good mother has for her child. Many women find it helpful to write down a negative dream and then rewrite a happier ending.
While dreams do not foretell the future, pregnancy dreams, especially those that have a recurring theme, can reveal hidden anxieties and bring your attention to issues that need to be dealt with. It’s helpful to record the recurring story lines of your dreams to see whether a pattern emerges that might reflect some hidden issue that needs to be addressed. While you don’t need to attach a great deal of meaning or importance to your dreams, some women find that reflecting on them can actually alleviate a lot of their anxiety. Encourage your husband to talk about his dreams as well. He’s making a big adjustment, too.