Mom-to-Mom Moments – Parenting is Hard
Mom-to-Mom Moment by Hayden Sears
For many years I stopped writing. It’s not that I didn’t have things of value to share. Honestly it’s that parenting and life got really, really hard and I felt like a failure. I mean come on, being the daughter of parenting experts and “America’s Pediatrician”, I was supposed to nail this motherhood thing. Since I had so much support and so many tools at my fingertips, why was I not better at this?!? I couldn’t even figure out how to save my 14 year marriage. So I got quiet. And the self talk that I wasn’t enough kept me that way for far too long.
Not Worrying About My Imperfections
At this point in my life several things have shifted. One is that I just turned 40 and I am no longer scared of my imperfections or worry so much about what people think of me and have released the ideal of perfection. Thank God, because that was so exhausting. And in hindsight I am able to recognize and appreciate the many areas that I did, in fact, shine. That being the best mom I could be at the time was probably better than being the “perfect mom”. Also, with my youngest now being 8 years old I’ve realized that parenting is just dang hard no matter how great your situation. The fact that I was having challenges was because I was in the trenches with my kids and experiencing real life, and not that I was a failure. The fairy-tale of a family with perfectly behaved and healthy kids where I could always be the nice, calm, beautiful, and a creative mother/wife has been shattered and replaced with the reality that the struggle is real. But that also it is the struggle that brings growth, depth, and quite possibly something truly worth sharing.
Embracing the Struggles of Parenthood
Now, being a single mom with three amazing kiddos ages 8, 11, and 14, the struggle is still there. The difference is now I’m not scared of it, but I embrace it and understand its value. Instead of feeling like I have to present a perfect front, I am compelled to continue my parents’ mission of helping support families in a way that is authentic to me. I can share my experience – the wonderful, the ugly, and the moments in between and THAT is enough. So, I offer up my Mom to Mom Moments – glimmers from the beautiful chaos that is my life.
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The Biography of Hayden Sears
Hayden Sears is a certified health and wellness coach who loves helping families and individuals on their journey towards better health. The oldest daughter of Dr. William and Martha Sears, she has worked with the Sears Family Pediatrics medical practice for over 12 years as Wellness Coordinator. She also contributes to the content of AskDrSears.com and has been a guest on TV shows and news stations sharing nutrition tips, healthy meal options, and the benefits of baby wearing. A single mother of three, Hayden enjoys traveling all over the world speaking to groups large and small on how to keep ourselves and our families healthy and thriving. She received her MA from Azusa Pacific University and resides in Southern California.